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I used to be one of those mom’s that said no tablets for my kids or limiting the amount of time on them, but I changed my perspective. 
Here’s why…. 
Our economy, our culture, and our world is changing. 
Have you noticed how brick and mortar stores are closing? 
Did you know there are kids/young adults making 6-7 figures online creating videos, podcasts, becoming influential marketers on Insta/Snapchat, becoming YouTube famous or even playing VIDEO GAMES online while getting paid? 
Did you know mom’s are creating 6-7 figures from blogging about their passions? 
Or how about regular people with or without college education also clearing 6-7 figures via network marketing from social media? 
Technology is HERE to stay and it’s just the beginning. Our world is not what it was when our parents and grandparents were growing up. Hell its not even like it was when we were growing up. It’s different! 
I could continue to keep technology out of my kids hands OR I could embrace it and be their guide to understanding how to use technology as a tool. I could allow them to post things online without my guidance or I could guide them how to positively navigate on this wide open digital playground. 
This is their “career” training and it’s up to me to guide them. Lord knows our school system is NOT embracing this world. Most continue to fight it and continue educating likes it the 1800’s preparing our kids for factory work and college (which in my opinion is useless unless they inspire to be in a field that needs specific training like doctors). 
What I have found is that by letting go of the limits, the kids aren’t so obsessed with it. They are learning to balance their time between outside, using it to learn via YouTube and for play or using it as escapism. I’m not having to dictate this balance to them. (Obviously with the little one, I still do more of the dictating as we navigate through our daily schedule.)

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What your child REALLY needs before Kindergarten?
Schools out for the summer for the older ones and I bet many parents who are gearing up to send their kids to school for the first time are wondering what can we do to get them ready for Kindergarten. 
Alright, I’ve been doing lots of reading about this topic and every article I seemed to find said the same things. What I was finding was literally breaking my heart. So this is what I believe every child REALLY needs before Kindergarten. Don’t worry, I already know the Kindergarten teachers probably won’t agree with me and well, I don’t really care. 😘
1. PLAY 

  

      We are talking about babies still in the grand scheme of things. 3, 4, and 5 year olds are still so little. They need less worksheets, less flashcards, and more PLAY. I’m talking FREE, unstructured play. Let them move, explore, try new things, fail and learn. Play is how they learn. 
2. READ
   And by read, I don’t mean working on getting your little one to read by doing flashcards, memorizing words, or anything that makes your child sit and do worksheets unless of course your child actually likes doing those things. 
   No, what I am talking about is reading to your child. Read every chance you can get. Read lots of different materials like books, blogs, newspapers, magazines, signs, hell you can even read Facebook statuses ( appropriate ones of course 😂) or put the tv on mute and read the sub titles of their favorite show. Just read to them.
3. Get them OUTSIDE

  

    Go outside as much as possible. Let them run, scream, climb,and be able to feel the warmth of the sun, the breeze in their hair and the grass on their feet. Time outside will increase their ability to focus and all that fresh air will help them sleep better. 
4. Spend QUALITY time with them 
    Put the phones down, turn off the TV, leave work at work, and truly engage with your kids. Build that connection with them. 
5. Build Social Skills 
    Allow your child opportunities to safely and positively engage with new people of all ages. Get them involved with play groups, workshops at local museums/zoos, volunteer together, visit assisted living/nursing homes, etc. Get them around people of all different walks of life. This can help them to build social skills along with teach them empathy.
These are just a few things your kiddo needs before Kindergarten or school in general. So dear mama… relax. Your child will do amazing. ❤️

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Title of blog: The Do's and Don't of getting your child to listen to you
We’ve all been there as parents. You know the frustrating moments when your child isn’t listening. What can we do as parents to help get them to listen to us? 

Ask yourself…

1. Are they hungry?

2. Are they tired?

3. Have you been paying attention to them? 

4. When we don’t respond right away to them, we aren’t modeling good listening skills.

5. Would a change of scenery help I.e. Go outside? 

When you speak to them…

1. Get down on their level

2. Hold their hand to help them focus on you

3. Ask them to repeat what you said, if and only if they have the verbal skills to do this 

4. Use positive words and tone when speaking to them 

What doesn’t work is yelling, spanking, punishing, or threatening them. Think about it… if you were having a problem like not being able to focus because you are hungry, would someone yelling at you or even spanking you get you to focus better? Probably not. Treat your children how you as an adult would like to be treated.

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