I’m sorry my daughter
I know all you’ve wanted the past few weeks is to play outside and I’m sorry we didn’t get to do it very much. It’s been an odd winter here between ice, rain, and very cold temps. When you couple that with mama’s growing belly and lack of energy, outside play has taken a back seat. However, I promise once mama heals we will always make a point to be outside as much as possible. I love that you love playing outside and I don’t want you to lose that love for the outdoors.
You are loved
Your brother is not here to replace you, but here to be a friend, playmate,confidant and another person to love you. I will always love you. I cherish each moment with you and I don’t take one of those moments for granted. It’s important to me that you get mommy and daughter alone time and we will make that happen whether it is five minutes playing trucks or girls’ night sleepovers.
You are brave
You are the most fearless and brave little girl I know. You aren’t afraid to try new things even if it gives mama more gray hairs. Your baby brother has a lot to learn from you and I hope you show him that it’s okay to be brave. He’s going to need a brave sister looking after him.
You are fierce like Fuli
You’re going to need that fierceness being the middle child of two brothers. Never be afraid to stand up for yourself and advocate for the things you need to feel loved and successful. We, as a family and most of all I as your mom, will listen.
You are so kind
You have a kind heart. From your love of sharing things with others to your wanting to help, I know you will be an amazing and kind big sister. Don’t get me wrong, I expect you and your brother to fight, but I know the kind moments will outshine the not so good.
You matter. You matter to me, daddy, big brother, and little brother. You were meant to be a part of our family and meant to be on this earth. I know you were put here to do amazing things, so never forget for a second that you matter.
You are beautiful!
You have one of the most beautiful souls with a beautiful face to match. Your little smile lights up the room. I have no doubt you will grow to be a kind women. You are beautiful on the inside and outside.
You are smart!
Yes, my little one, you are SO, SO smart. Sometimes I wonder if you aren’t too smart for your own good. However, there will be times that your brother may get things faster or be better at something than you or even times you will struggle with something. This is okay. You are smart and shine in different ways. When you are struggling with something, rely on your amazing problem solving skills and patience. Keep trying if you want or move on to something else if you feel it’s not worth the effort. Failure is an amazing teacher and something we all need to learn how to handle. Embrace the failure and remember you and your brother are two different people with many different strengths.
I’m Melissa Dow, M.ED. I am a wife, mama of 2 and a bonus mama of 1. A former public school educator with 7 years of experience in both special education and general education who is on a new journey to help parents guide their children to uncover their true passions in order to find their life purpose. I love spending time out in nature whether hiking, running, camping, canoeing or just playing in our backyard (aka our outdoor classroom). I also enjoy reading, learning new things, organic gardening and creating our a simple life.